Love Dare ~~~~~Day 5

He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him.

Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.

July 13, 2010

Well at first, I didn't understand the bible verse I said that verse in my head over and over............ even reread it out loud, saying wow what the heck does that mean. Then the light bulb went off. My voice is always at a decimal of 10 to my husband, to my children and then I started to think of every time I would open my big trap, it was to scream, yell, dictate, or bark orders. So I first kept on counting over and over and over and over and over. Now we talk together instead of yelling. There is more smiles then tears and frowns. The Dare says to ask my spouse three things about me that make him uncomfortable. I really don't need to know them by heart:

1. I scream way to much.

2. I scream way to much.

3. I always yell.

So that's what I am working on!! Keep praying for me!!!

Love Dare ~~~~~ Day 4

How precious also are Your thoughts to me.........How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand.

Contact your spouse sometime during he business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.

July 12, 2010
Day 4 of the Love Dare went pretty smooth. I continued to do days 1,2, and 3. This dare calls for you to contact your spouse to see how their day is going....well that's one thing I have done forever at least two or three times a day. So anyway, I called Dave and he seemed to want to talk a little longer than usual (which was nicer than OK, I gotta go, I'm busy) I continued to talk to my children not at my children which believe it or not really does make a huge difference in our day. So continue to pray as I do my part for my hubby and kiddos.

Love Dare~~~~~ Day3

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor. ~~~ Romans 12:10



Whatever you put your time, energy and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, Buy your spouse something that says, " I was thinking of you today"


Well I will be very honest..... This is SO HARD SUPER HARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really had to bite my tongue, but I did my part I did not say one negative word ( WELL OUT LOUD THAT IS) In my mind I wanted to hit my husband in the head with a frying pan. It was almost like he was looking for a fight. I guess he had a really bad day at work. So I did my part and I think he was like wow what have I done I can not seem to break her. HA HA HA I got the last laugh!!!! The kids seem to be looking at me like I have four heads and are wondering when my head will just explode in anger but I will not give in this time family is so important. Although my son David wants to fight.... all the time, just don't understand but I guess in time I will I hope. This road I am traveling down has a lot of twists to it but hopefully I will see the other side of life. I want more kids just two more but need to work on what I got first!!! So wish me luck and pray super hard please.

Love Dare~~~~~ Day 2

This is a verse from the Love Dare book. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.

Well, I did it. Made it through Day 2, which really wasn't all that hard actually. There were plenty and I mean plenty of opportunities to scream and pull my hair out..... BUT I DIDN'T. My husband went out and got breakfast for us which was awesome. So that was a great start to the day. Then the kids and I met a friend and her daughter at Chuckie Cheese and had a great time. After Chuckie's, I stopped off at a couple of stores and got the kids silly bands a little surprise they didn't expect. The other day my husband was rambling on about some stuff he needed, of course, he probably thought I wasn't listening............but I was taking mental notes. That is what I stopped off to get at the store. He was quite surprised and you could tell he was happy I was listening to him.

So it is safe to say Day 2 went off without me blowing a gasket or pulling my hair out!! So I will leave you with this reminder. To breathe , it might be counting to 10 or 55 or 100, just keep going your family depends on it. I truly believe that.

Day 3 will be interesting!!♥

The Love Dare~~~Day 1

This is a verse from the Love Dare book itself. The first of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.

I worked on doing this dare towards everyone I spoke to, not just my spouse. I worked on this dare from the moment I woke up and until the moment they fell asleep. I realized that taking deep breaths works, a lot more than you would think. I also realized that counting to ten was not working for me and that I should increase it to fifteen. By the end of the day I was counting to fifty- five. Today, I received a counting lesson and a yoga breathing instruction. I have noticed today, that there was a lot less yelling from my end and a lot more listening and productivity.

Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. (James1:19)

This is a great book!!! I totally recommend doing the forty days the book has to offer. I will continue with the thirty- nine more love dares!!♥

FIREPROOF ( the movie)

My daughter Jenna and I can watch this movie over and over and never get tired of it. Which brings me to my next part I have been such a horrible person in general lately to my husband and my children over choices I choose to do.... I have tied my tubes so that I could no longer have children, I had to do it or so I thought I had too. In the movie Caleb is reading the love dare and he is working on saving his marriage. Though I don't think my marriage is in any trouble, but my family just might be..... in the sense that I yell, scream, demand things at once or else!!! Well I own the book now and my next 40 post will be of me doing my part to save my family life. Please wish me luck!!!!

Some random pictures!!!!♥

Wow! It has been Quite awhile since my last post. We have been really busy with life in general.... but here are some picture's of the little one's First Two pic is the four little one's playing at the limerick park. The next one is them in their vacation bible school shirts,they were in the butterfly group oh so cute!!! I hope you are all ready for the next one it is of the baby.... when asked by her dad what she was doing she said why daddy I'm Having my babies right now...well imagine our surprise when daddy asked her well what are you having a boy or a girl she said four boys and four girls just like mommy! This is her labor face.

Well school is over.... YIPPY!!!!! We now are just enjoying our days and planning our trips. So far no body wants to go to florida or tennessee which I'm really upset about, florida not so much as the tenneesse trip though I just love it there. We have a lot of input of shore trips water parks and such, but nothing big.