Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.~~Philippians 2:4
Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.
July 19th, 2010
Well the morning started out like every other crazy morning, getting 3 kids ready for camp, getting myself ready, and of course, my husband wants to talk ( I am soooo not a morning person)!! Well, he starts by talking about the outside of the house. We want to redo it all. Well, I originally wanted tan siding, black shutters, and doors and he wanted a very light cream and every time we talk about it, we fight about it. I know its stupid.....but come on really, do we need to fight about everything. Then, I thought about dark gray and black shutter and a burgundy door. Well, now its, no I was thinking of stone and stucco, by this time I was saying to myself, "OK you know what Dave, I bet that would look awesome. We should take a ride around and checkout some other housing developments." When actually in my head I am screaming and ripping my hair out.... but instead I am just smiling. Well, that's all from the funny farm!!!
Much love, Jeanette
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Friday, July 23, 2010
Love Dare~~~~ Day 11
Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies--Ephesians 5:28
What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give a back rub or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, "I cherish you" and do it with a smile.
July 19, 2010
Well it's Sunday and that usually means getting up super early and yelling and screaming.....but today will be different.. I woke up and started getting the kids outfits ready. Dave was asking what was for breakfast? Are we going to IHOP or not? His usual rant about we are going to be late, we'll never get in!! Well, I darn near bit my tongue off again, but I am happy to say with my tongue in tact, I did my dare. We went to IHOP and no yelling. Then he bascially thought it was OK to kidnap the whole family to Wildwood. We walked at least 2 miles up and back, bought 2 kites ( 1 ladybug and 1 spiderman) and flew them on the beach. We ate lunch and bought some fires and cotton candy which is usually when I started flipping NOT ON YOUR OUTFITS OR NOT IN MY VAN! Nope not today, oh yea, I also had the kids dress up in old time photos and for sure, I thought my son David would give the most complaints, actually he only "Really" and I said "YES", he said "OK". My oldest daughter, Jenna, was in a state of shock. Check out the photo....hehehehehe........I'm not so pleased with them holding the guns, but it was done in fun!! Then a nice dinner out, home and nite nite.
What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give a back rub or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, "I cherish you" and do it with a smile.
July 19, 2010
Well it's Sunday and that usually means getting up super early and yelling and screaming.....but today will be different.. I woke up and started getting the kids outfits ready. Dave was asking what was for breakfast? Are we going to IHOP or not? His usual rant about we are going to be late, we'll never get in!! Well, I darn near bit my tongue off again, but I am happy to say with my tongue in tact, I did my dare. We went to IHOP and no yelling. Then he bascially thought it was OK to kidnap the whole family to Wildwood. We walked at least 2 miles up and back, bought 2 kites ( 1 ladybug and 1 spiderman) and flew them on the beach. We ate lunch and bought some fires and cotton candy which is usually when I started flipping NOT ON YOUR OUTFITS OR NOT IN MY VAN! Nope not today, oh yea, I also had the kids dress up in old time photos and for sure, I thought my son David would give the most complaints, actually he only "Really" and I said "YES", he said "OK". My oldest daughter, Jenna, was in a state of shock. Check out the photo....hehehehehe........I'm not so pleased with them holding the guns, but it was done in fun!! Then a nice dinner out, home and nite nite.
Love Dare~~~~Day 10
God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us -- Romans 5:8
Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse--something that proves ( to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Wash her car. Clean the Kitchen. Buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
July 18, 2010
Well today, I have to do something out of the ordinary. I really had to put my thinking cap on.....so I did most of the kids chores and had made hubby and the kids a nice dinner. I also made Dave's favorite dessert sponge cake with strawberries, grapes and ready whip for everyone ( the secret is I told them no I'm too tired...........hehehehehe).
Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse--something that proves ( to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Wash her car. Clean the Kitchen. Buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
July 18, 2010
Well today, I have to do something out of the ordinary. I really had to put my thinking cap on.....so I did most of the kids chores and had made hubby and the kids a nice dinner. I also made Dave's favorite dessert sponge cake with strawberries, grapes and ready whip for everyone ( the secret is I told them no I'm too tired...........hehehehehe).
Love Dare~~~~~~Day 9
Great one another with a kiss of love--1 Peter 5:14
Think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then Determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
July 17, 2010
This day calls for me to pick a way to greet the people I love. Well with the hubby it was, a smile, a squeeze, and a kiss ;) The kids I greeted each one of the little ones with the same as my hubby, but the older ones it was a smile and a direct look in their eyes and called them by their name and asked them how they were feeling or if they needed anything.
Think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then Determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
July 17, 2010
This day calls for me to pick a way to greet the people I love. Well with the hubby it was, a smile, a squeeze, and a kiss ;) The kids I greeted each one of the little ones with the same as my hubby, but the older ones it was a smile and a direct look in their eyes and called them by their name and asked them how they were feeling or if they needed anything.
Love Dare ~~~~~Day 8
Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire. --Song of Solomon 8:6
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
July 16, 2010
Well today, I told my kids how great they were and how when we all get along and we can achieve going places on our days off. And for my hubby, I has told him how proud I was and how amazing I thought it was that he has learned to fly (which makes me nerves as heck but it's his enjoyment, his release).
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
July 16, 2010
Well today, I told my kids how great they were and how when we all get along and we can achieve going places on our days off. And for my hubby, I has told him how proud I was and how amazing I thought it was that he has learned to fly (which makes me nerves as heck but it's his enjoyment, his release).
Love Dare~~~~~ Day 7
{ LOVE } believes all things, hopes all things. ~~ 1 Corinthians 13:7
For today's dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, Pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.
July.15,2010
Day seven's dare was easy for me to do I did the list and then proceeded to tell my kids how great I thought they where and that I;m their biggest fan! I also told my husband how much of a great provider he is and how much I love that, I can stay home with the kids and take them to the park or a water park or just to the track to walk and they are fine with that.
Much love, Jeanette
For today's dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, Pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.
July.15,2010
Day seven's dare was easy for me to do I did the list and then proceeded to tell my kids how great I thought they where and that I;m their biggest fan! I also told my husband how much of a great provider he is and how much I love that, I can stay home with the kids and take them to the park or a water park or just to the track to walk and they are fine with that.
Much love, Jeanette
Love Dare~~~~ Day 6
He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.~~~ Proverbs 16:32
Choose today to react to tough circumstance's in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list below of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.
July. 14,2010
In terms of my marriage I think we..... no I meant I need to work on my marriage. Yes Dave has his moments where I wonder why or what have I done. But all in all he has always worked so hard for us. That allows me to take my kids out and for me to be home with my kids. Which in true light it's what I really always wanted to do is to raise my kids. I was the one that was there for all their milestones. I have known women that had to work to make ends meet and had missed their babies first tooth or roll over and I am so truly happy and blessed to say that I saw it all happen...... TIMES EIGHT♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
Much love, Jeanette
Choose today to react to tough circumstance's in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list below of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.
July. 14,2010
In terms of my marriage I think we..... no I meant I need to work on my marriage. Yes Dave has his moments where I wonder why or what have I done. But all in all he has always worked so hard for us. That allows me to take my kids out and for me to be home with my kids. Which in true light it's what I really always wanted to do is to raise my kids. I was the one that was there for all their milestones. I have known women that had to work to make ends meet and had missed their babies first tooth or roll over and I am so truly happy and blessed to say that I saw it all happen...... TIMES EIGHT♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
Much love, Jeanette
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Love Dare ~~~~~Day 5
He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him.
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
July 13, 2010
Well at first, I didn't understand the bible verse I said that verse in my head over and over............ even reread it out loud, saying wow what the heck does that mean. Then the light bulb went off. My voice is always at a decimal of 10 to my husband, to my children and then I started to think of every time I would open my big trap, it was to scream, yell, dictate, or bark orders. So I first kept on counting over and over and over and over and over. Now we talk together instead of yelling. There is more smiles then tears and frowns. The Dare says to ask my spouse three things about me that make him uncomfortable. I really don't need to know them by heart:
1. I scream way to much.
2. I scream way to much.
3. I always yell.
So that's what I am working on!! Keep praying for me!!!
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
July 13, 2010
Well at first, I didn't understand the bible verse I said that verse in my head over and over............ even reread it out loud, saying wow what the heck does that mean. Then the light bulb went off. My voice is always at a decimal of 10 to my husband, to my children and then I started to think of every time I would open my big trap, it was to scream, yell, dictate, or bark orders. So I first kept on counting over and over and over and over and over. Now we talk together instead of yelling. There is more smiles then tears and frowns. The Dare says to ask my spouse three things about me that make him uncomfortable. I really don't need to know them by heart:
1. I scream way to much.
2. I scream way to much.
3. I always yell.
So that's what I am working on!! Keep praying for me!!!
Love Dare ~~~~~ Day 4
How precious also are Your thoughts to me.........How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand.
Contact your spouse sometime during he business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
July 12, 2010
Day 4 of the Love Dare went pretty smooth. I continued to do days 1,2, and 3. This dare calls for you to contact your spouse to see how their day is going....well that's one thing I have done forever at least two or three times a day. So anyway, I called Dave and he seemed to want to talk a little longer than usual (which was nicer than OK, I gotta go, I'm busy) I continued to talk to my children not at my children which believe it or not really does make a huge difference in our day. So continue to pray as I do my part for my hubby and kiddos.
Contact your spouse sometime during he business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
July 12, 2010
Day 4 of the Love Dare went pretty smooth. I continued to do days 1,2, and 3. This dare calls for you to contact your spouse to see how their day is going....well that's one thing I have done forever at least two or three times a day. So anyway, I called Dave and he seemed to want to talk a little longer than usual (which was nicer than OK, I gotta go, I'm busy) I continued to talk to my children not at my children which believe it or not really does make a huge difference in our day. So continue to pray as I do my part for my hubby and kiddos.
Sunday, July 11, 2010
Love Dare~~~~~ Day3
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor. ~~~ Romans 12:10
Whatever you put your time, energy and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, Buy your spouse something that says, " I was thinking of you today"
Well I will be very honest..... This is SO HARD SUPER HARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really had to bite my tongue, but I did my part I did not say one negative word ( WELL OUT LOUD THAT IS) In my mind I wanted to hit my husband in the head with a frying pan. It was almost like he was looking for a fight. I guess he had a really bad day at work. So I did my part and I think he was like wow what have I done I can not seem to break her. HA HA HA I got the last laugh!!!! The kids seem to be looking at me like I have four heads and are wondering when my head will just explode in anger but I will not give in this time family is so important. Although my son David wants to fight.... all the time, just don't understand but I guess in time I will I hope. This road I am traveling down has a lot of twists to it but hopefully I will see the other side of life. I want more kids just two more but need to work on what I got first!!! So wish me luck and pray super hard please.
Whatever you put your time, energy and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, Buy your spouse something that says, " I was thinking of you today"
Well I will be very honest..... This is SO HARD SUPER HARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really had to bite my tongue, but I did my part I did not say one negative word ( WELL OUT LOUD THAT IS) In my mind I wanted to hit my husband in the head with a frying pan. It was almost like he was looking for a fight. I guess he had a really bad day at work. So I did my part and I think he was like wow what have I done I can not seem to break her. HA HA HA I got the last laugh!!!! The kids seem to be looking at me like I have four heads and are wondering when my head will just explode in anger but I will not give in this time family is so important. Although my son David wants to fight.... all the time, just don't understand but I guess in time I will I hope. This road I am traveling down has a lot of twists to it but hopefully I will see the other side of life. I want more kids just two more but need to work on what I got first!!! So wish me luck and pray super hard please.
Friday, July 9, 2010
Love Dare~~~~~ Day 2
This is a verse from the Love Dare book. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
Well, I did it. Made it through Day 2, which really wasn't all that hard actually. There were plenty and I mean plenty of opportunities to scream and pull my hair out..... BUT I DIDN'T. My husband went out and got breakfast for us which was awesome. So that was a great start to the day. Then the kids and I met a friend and her daughter at Chuckie Cheese and had a great time. After Chuckie's, I stopped off at a couple of stores and got the kids silly bands a little surprise they didn't expect. The other day my husband was rambling on about some stuff he needed, of course, he probably thought I wasn't listening............but I was taking mental notes. That is what I stopped off to get at the store. He was quite surprised and you could tell he was happy I was listening to him.
So it is safe to say Day 2 went off without me blowing a gasket or pulling my hair out!! So I will leave you with this reminder. To breathe , it might be counting to 10 or 55 or 100, just keep going your family depends on it. I truly believe that.
Day 3 will be interesting!!♥
Well, I did it. Made it through Day 2, which really wasn't all that hard actually. There were plenty and I mean plenty of opportunities to scream and pull my hair out..... BUT I DIDN'T. My husband went out and got breakfast for us which was awesome. So that was a great start to the day. Then the kids and I met a friend and her daughter at Chuckie Cheese and had a great time. After Chuckie's, I stopped off at a couple of stores and got the kids silly bands a little surprise they didn't expect. The other day my husband was rambling on about some stuff he needed, of course, he probably thought I wasn't listening............but I was taking mental notes. That is what I stopped off to get at the store. He was quite surprised and you could tell he was happy I was listening to him.
So it is safe to say Day 2 went off without me blowing a gasket or pulling my hair out!! So I will leave you with this reminder. To breathe , it might be counting to 10 or 55 or 100, just keep going your family depends on it. I truly believe that.
Day 3 will be interesting!!♥
Thursday, July 8, 2010
The Love Dare~~~Day 1
This is a verse from the Love Dare book itself. The first of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.
I worked on doing this dare towards everyone I spoke to, not just my spouse. I worked on this dare from the moment I woke up and until the moment they fell asleep. I realized that taking deep breaths works, a lot more than you would think. I also realized that counting to ten was not working for me and that I should increase it to fifteen. By the end of the day I was counting to fifty- five. Today, I received a counting lesson and a yoga breathing instruction. I have noticed today, that there was a lot less yelling from my end and a lot more listening and productivity.
Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. (James1:19)
This is a great book!!! I totally recommend doing the forty days the book has to offer. I will continue with the thirty- nine more love dares!!♥
I worked on doing this dare towards everyone I spoke to, not just my spouse. I worked on this dare from the moment I woke up and until the moment they fell asleep. I realized that taking deep breaths works, a lot more than you would think. I also realized that counting to ten was not working for me and that I should increase it to fifteen. By the end of the day I was counting to fifty- five. Today, I received a counting lesson and a yoga breathing instruction. I have noticed today, that there was a lot less yelling from my end and a lot more listening and productivity.
Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. (James1:19)
This is a great book!!! I totally recommend doing the forty days the book has to offer. I will continue with the thirty- nine more love dares!!♥
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
FIREPROOF ( the movie)
My daughter Jenna and I can watch this movie over and over and never get tired of it. Which brings me to my next part I have been such a horrible person in general lately to my husband and my children over choices I choose to do.... I have tied my tubes so that I could no longer have children, I had to do it or so I thought I had too. In the movie Caleb is reading the love dare and he is working on saving his marriage. Though I don't think my marriage is in any trouble, but my family just might be..... in the sense that I yell, scream, demand things at once or else!!! Well I own the book now and my next 40 post will be of me doing my part to save my family life. Please wish me luck!!!!
Some random pictures!!!!♥
Wow! It has been Quite awhile since my last post. We have been really busy with life in general.... but here are some picture's of the little one's First Two pic is the four little one's playing at the limerick park. The next one is them in their vacation bible school shirts,they were in the butterfly group oh so cute!!! I hope you are all ready for the next one it is of the baby.... when asked by her dad what she was doing she said why daddy I'm Having my babies right now...well imagine our surprise when daddy asked her well what are you having a boy or a girl she said four boys and four girls just like mommy! This is her labor face. Well school is over.... YIPPY!!!!! We now are just enjoying our days and planning our trips. So far no body wants to go to florida or tennessee which I'm really upset about, florida not so much as the tenneesse trip though I just love it there. We have a lot of input of shore trips water parks and such, but nothing big.
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